Tim Kellis, Author of "Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage"
Hello
I have one more month left in my two month blog tour on relationships. The month of May is sure to be as active as the month of April. I would like to invite you for a Blog Tour I will be doing this month. The focus on the tour will be relationships, and the discussion is sure to be lively.
I want to again thank Dorothy Thompson at Pump Up Your Book Promotion (http://www.pumpupyourbookpromotion.com/) for her tireless work over the last 2 months putting this Blog Tour together.
She already has again filled up the month with blog tour stops.
Our first stop is going to be Cafe of Dreams. Please join us on May 4th at http://www.cafeofdreams.blogspot.com/ to participate at our first stop.
Here are the tour stops:
May 4 – Café of Dreams (guest post) http://www.cafeofdreams.blogspot.com
May 5 – Re-Writing Life Scripts (guest post) http://irenewatson.typepad.com/irenes_weblog/
May 6 – If Books Could Talk (book video) http://www.bookvideos.wordpress.com
May 7 – Book Marketing Buzz (guest post) http://www.bookmarketingbuzz.com
May 8 – Scribe Vibe (guest post) http://www.scribevibe.blogspot.com
May 11 – The Book Connection (guest post) http://www.thebookconnectionccm.blogspot.com
May 12 – A Bookish Mom (guest post) http://www.abookishmom.blogspot.com
May 13 – A Bookish Mom (book review) http://www.abookishmom.blogspot.com
May 14 – The Story Behind the Book (guest post) http://www.thestorybehindthebook.wordpress.com
May 15 – Book Talk Corner (interview) http://www.booktalkcorner.today.com
May 16: A Book and a Chat (radio show podcast) http://www.blogtalkradio.com/across-the-pond
Saturday 11 a.m.
May 18 – Wife and Mom of 3 (guest post) http://www.wifeandmomof3.net
May 19 – Caridad Pineiro (guest post) http://www.caridad.com/blog/
May 20 – The Book Stacks (guest post) http://www.thebookstacks.com
May 21 – Self-Publishing Review (interview) http://www.selfpublishingreview.com
May 22 – As the Pages Turn (interview) http://www.asthepagesturn.wordpress.com
May 25 – Introducing WRITERS! Radio Show (http://www.blogtalkradio.com/kims)
8:30 p.m.
May 27 – Nonfiction Book Review (guest post) http://www.nonfictionbookreview.com
May 28 – Love is an Exploding Cigar (guest post) http://www.loveisanexplodingcigar.com/
Please join us during the month on the stops that you can make. Remember the goal is to save our culture of marriage, and someone has to stop this rampant divorce.
Sincerely
Tim Kellis
http://HappyRelationships.com/
http://HappyMarriages.com/
Tim Kellis, author of \\\"Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage\\\" Renowned Wall Street analyst Tim Kellis takes on what could be considered society’s biggest problem today, divorce. The journey that led to him tackling such a significant issue was both personal and professional. After a successful career that eventually landed him on Wall Street Tim met what he thought was the girl of his dreams, only to see that relationship end with bitterness and anger. The journey included work with a marital therapist, and after he discovered the therapist wasn’t really helping decided to tackle the issue himself.
Ambition and a strong aptitude for math helped lead Kellis to discover how to make relationships work. His math skills led directly to an engineering degree, nine years in the telecommunications industry, an MBA in finance, and finally on to Wall Street, where he became the very first semiconductor analyst to focus on the communications market.
After publishing a 300-page initiation piece entitled Initiating Coverage of the Semiconductor Industry: Riding the Bandwidth Wave, Kellis became a leading semiconductor analyst at one of the biggest firms on Wall Street. The experience he gained as a Wall Street analyst provided an excellent backdrop for becoming an expert on relationships, and resulted in his relationship book entitled “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage”. Read more from this author
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Tim:
Maybe the original cause for the lack of our society’s “relationship-accountability” pandemic within the past 40 years, which has spread with little discrimination to social-class, educational-level or religious belief; however, it has threatened our traditional institutions to near extinction - those such as marriage or the [traditional] family-unit (such as Mom, Dad, Patty, and all) or the likely culprits affecting relationships and personal-growth - is far different than originally thought?
Could the high divorce-rate in the United States, along with the un-importance placed on the religious and social act of marriage, be from the way American’s believe they must socially assimiliate themselves soon after they learn of achieving American success [the American dream]? This is usually achieved while maturing into adulthood, often for cultural idemnification - then we start conforming our relationships into pseudo-acceptable models, conducive for integrating everyone’s lifestyles into our contemporary paradigm of social-norms.
This need to culturally blend into a comfortable lifestyle might just be the “smoking-gun” of sociological evidence that needs to change, and only then can we be re-directed into more stable ways when it comes to putting a higher value on marriage and monogamous relationships.
Consider how different American society viewed divorce during the 1960’s, and how easy divorce can be achieved in the U.S. today. I’m 54 now, but I can remember certain social-interactions in the 1960’s during my elementary school days - when divorce wasn’t just looked down-on - it wasn’t even discussed (by men or women) at all.
You and/or your ex to be, can even legally end your marriage yourself for under $500, plus court-costs, by doing all of your own paper-work, but only if both parties are in complete agreement (good-luck on that one). The courts have been using the term “divorce” less and less by replacing it with terms such as “enollment” or “dis-illusionment” shortly after passing changes or addendums to family-law legislation.
It seems to me that by making diivorce easier to achieve, the courts have placed less value on marriage and have weakened their own position on what was once a “traditional” social-institution that legally formed the beginning of a new American family.
The U.S. Supreme Court may have cheapened the social-value of marriage to the majority involved; although, it has also salvaged some dignity for itself and some integrity for the institution of marriage by continuing to maintain the definition of marriage as only applicable to a heterosexual union.
If we want society to treat marriage as less disposable, we will have to continue to legislate morality in the opposite direction we have been going. While this might make the conservatives like Rush Limbaugh happy, the only time the courts make it more difficult to get a divorce is when there are children involved.
Why is this line of thinking so wrong? The children are not getting married to one of their parents, nor do they have any means to make either parent feel better about being with each other. Normally by nature, no child wants to see their parents split-up, but just having children usually doesn’t change issues of abuse or mis-behavior. Children are very adaptive, even more-so than most adults. Also, when child-support and other financial issues are present in divorce, they were likely there during marriage too.
If the parties were forced to work-out their differences, I really believe most would do so. Marriage, or any other close relationship, takes a lot of work and sacrifice to survive long periods of time or hardship, and most Americans just don’t want to be bothered with the complexities of improving their own emotional lots.
Did we all take those vows and intentionally lie when we recited them? Maybe the courts should start putting us in jail for lying whenever two married people try to split-up?
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If this interests you, more information can be found by searching for “Catalog of Human Population” on Google.
All the best!
Kate Bazilevsky