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Sacred Relationships

I have spent a lot of time contemplating the solution to the relationship problem in an effort to solve our cultural problem of divorce, and have yet to find elsewhere a message that conveys an approach that truly explains the path to the solution…until now!!!

A friend of mine forwarded to me the following article, entitled “Sacred Relationships: A New Paradigm Unfolding” that clearly explains an approach that keeps couples from taking that slippery path to divorce. The point of this article is that we must be happy with ourself first, before we can find true love in another. And within a marriage we reveal ourselves through our struggles with our partner in life, that they become a mirror for us to better understand ourselves.

Or as I summarize, through our anger and anxieties we reveal our own shadows, and through this understanding we can come to terms with the fears that underly our insecurities.

Here is the link to the article:

Years ago a couple who was celebrating their 50th anniversary shared their formula for success: “Relationships are ninety-ninety,” Grandma Anderson said. To this day I still have no idea what that means, and at the time I couldn’t help but notice that Grandma and Grandpa Anderson didn’t really seem happy together. She did all of the talking and he sat silently at her side — until she left the room. Then he could speak freely without her interjecting or scolding him. When I looked at them I didn’t see two people who were happy to be sharing their hearts and truths with each other. I saw two people who were living in the same house without physically harming each other.

I’ve come to realize that there aren’t many examples of sacred relationships on the planet — relationships where both partners genuinely love themselves and each other; relationships where both partners enjoy themselves, each other, and life together. Sacred relationships do exist, but they are so uncommon that the majority of us have yet to witness a true sacred relationship, let alone experience one. What is a sacred relationship? Why are we so challenged with finding our ’soul mate’, our ‘twin flame’, or our ‘true love’? Perhaps the answer lies in our perception of what true love is and what it means to be in a sacred relationship.

The search for love often begins when a person realizes that he or she feels incomplete. Many people seek relationships to try to find love — to find their ’soul mate’ or ‘other half’. In other words, many seek to complete themselves through searching for love outside of themselves; love given to them by another person. Of course the missing piece that makes us whole is the discovery of our own infinite source of internal love, but we generally don’t realize this at first.

This search for love offers an opportunity to discover one of humanity’s great spiritual truths: our most fulfilling and sacred relationship is the one we share with ourselves. Our first sacred relationship is with self and self-love is the basis for all sacred relationships.

Does this make relationships with others a misguided distraction from developing an infinite love of self? Not at all. Relationships offer unlimited opportunities for self-growth, self-mastery, and self-love. When we enter a relationship we’re forging a spiritual contract with our partner saying, “I’ll be a mirror for you so you can see your divine reflection — all the attributes, light and shadow, that reveal who you are and who you are becoming — if you’ll do the same for me.”

This spiritual contract allows relationships to act as catalysts for our spiritual growth and evolution. When another person acts as our mirror and reflects all of our attributes back to us so we can see ourselves more clearly, we enter the fast-track to finding true love in relationships — discovering our infinite potential to completely love ourselves. From this place of self-love we have a greater capacity to extend and share our love with others. The love shared in a sacred relationship is a gift reflecting the infinite self-love within each person.

The view of relationships as a catalyst also reveals why many relationships seem to become more difficult over time. As partners act as mirrors for each other, they reveal aspects of each others’ self that were previously hidden from them. The “shadows” of each partner are gradually revealed. Here’s a classic example of how hidden aspects emerge through the process of mirroring:

Partner 1: “Why do you (fill in the blank — become defensive, argue, close off, deny responsibility, etc.) when we discuss this subject?”

Partner 2: “I don’t do that!”

At this point, a number of paths can be explored — from arguing to exploring the issue further and finding a piece of self that was previously hidden. Regardless of the outcome, an aspect of one or both partners has been revealed that they have yet to discover about themselves. Here is an opportunity for both partners to explore self and grow in their awareness and self-love through the reflection they see in each other.

Often, spiritual contracts and mirroring in relationships occur on an unconscious level. Perhaps this explains why we find relationships so challenging. Not only do we look for love from our partner that we can only find within ourselves, but we also attempt to change aspects of our partners that we are unwilling to address in ourselves because we are unwilling to admit they may exist in us. Many of us find it much easier to blame our partner for any challenges or discomfort in the relationship than to look within ourselves and accept responsibility for the disharmony we may be creating.

The mirroring of our light and shadow attributes continues until there is no duality or polarity within us; until we are truly heart-centered in all ways and at all times. This is the ultimate potential of a sacred relationship.

Imagine the potential for personal growth, awareness, and self-love that exists when we enter into the spiritual contracts of relationships on a conscious level! Imagine the amount of growth and mastery both partners can achieve when they are aware of the process of mirroring and when they accept their roles as mirrors with love and grace. Imagine the power of a conscious catalyst for growth, mastery, and self-love. This is a sacred relationship; a relationship where two sovereign divine beings choose to walk along side each other, sharing and reflecting their unique beauty, without judgment or expectation.

We can enter into all relationships fully conscious and aware that they are catalysts for us to rediscover who we are. We can enter into relationships knowing that our partner does not complete us by giving us the love we think we’re missing, but that our partner acts as a catalyst to help us find the love that already exists within us. And we do the same for our partner! We can even transform relationships we’re currently in by agreeing to consciously acknowledge their true function of propelling our spiritual growth and self-love.

Sacred relationships create no need and no dependency. Both partners simultaneously grow into higher and higher states of self-love. In a sacred relationship, partners grow along side each other while mirroring and reflecting each other’s divine qualities.

This is our potential now — today. On Earth we are creating a new paradigm of sacred relationships. Every relationship in our world may not be a sacred one, yet all relationships have the potential to evolve and grow into sacred ones. Imagine a world where all relationships are sacred relationships — from our most intimate partner, to friends, family, acquaintances, and even strangers!

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Arttemis and Krystalle Keszainn are sacred partners, master healers, spiritual stewards, and ambassadors of the New Earth. They share a sacred relationship with each other and with Earth. As sacred partners they write, teach, travel, play, and practice the healing arts together. As master healers they create space in which others feel comfortable enough to heal and transform themselves. As spiritual stewards they embrace the responsibility for the survival and well being of Earth, and honor the intimate connection between Earth and humanity. As ambassadors of the New Earth, they aspire to reintroduce and foster the lines of communication between humanity and Earth so we may live in balance and harmony together. Their love for themselves, each other, Gaia, and humanity directs their passion in creating a New Earth.

Arttemis and Krystalle are currently traveling the country sharing their hearts and sacred space with those they meet along the way. You can read more of their articles and impressions of their journey on www.Urth.tv, a social network for people who value higher consciousness, vibrant living, and a sustainable planet. To find out how you can participate in their sacred journey, contact them at newearthvision@gmail.com .

Tim Kellis

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Tim Kellis, author of \\\"Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage\\\"  Renowned Wall Street analyst Tim Kellis takes on what could be considered society’s biggest problem today, divorce. The journey that led to him tackling such a significant issue was both personal and professional. After a successful career that eventually landed him on Wall Street Tim met what he thought was the girl of his dreams, only to see that relationship end with bitterness and anger. The journey included work with a marital therapist, and after he discovered the therapist wasn’t really helping decided to tackle the issue himself. Ambition and a strong aptitude for math helped lead Kellis to discover how to make relationships work. His math skills led directly to an engineering degree, nine years in the telecommunications industry, an MBA in finance, and finally on to Wall Street, where he became the very first semiconductor analyst to focus on the communications market. After publishing a 300-page initiation piece entitled Initiating Coverage of the Semiconductor Industry: Riding the Bandwidth Wave, Kellis became a leading semiconductor analyst at one of the biggest firms on Wall Street. The experience he gained as a Wall Street analyst provided an excellent backdrop for becoming an expert on relationships, and resulted in his relationship book entitled “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage”. Read more from this author